Notorious B-L-O-G

“Forget all the reasons why it won’t work and believe in the one reason why it will.”

No. Just no. This quote is completely stupid in every single way. If there are SEVERAL reasons why something won’t work and ONE reason why it might work, that means it is most likely not going to fucking work! Don’t believe me? Take this philosophy and apply it to anything practical in life.

If you decide you want to get a running start off your roof and fly to the mall, and you forget all the reasons why it won’t work (i.e humans are incapable of flying on their own, it is scientifically impossible to take flight, you would need much more speed to go ANY distance than a running start) and focus on the one reason why it might (i.e a tornado happens to be near and the wind carries you) ….you will end up paralyzed or dead.

Using this philosophy in a relationship is the leading cause of the horrendous “relationships” you see playing out in sad lyrics statuses on Facebook. For instance, Jill is dating John.

Reasons why Jill & Johns relationship WON’T work:

1. John is a scumbag

2. John is serving a prison sentence

3. John cares about drugs and alcohol more than he cares about Jill

4. John has no ambition to turn his life around

Reason why Jill & John’s relationship WILL work:

1. Jill is happy when she talks to John

That one reason does not fucking matter in the grand scheme of things. You need to look at the big picture in a relationship. There are many, many factors that go into having a good relationship. So girls who live by this quote, you might want to focus on those other reasons or you will end up being miserable. And if you want to apply this quote to relationships then fine, whatever, i can’t change your mind…but for gods sake at least let me give you a ride to the mall.

“They didn’t agree on much, in fact, they rarely agreed on anything, they fought all the time and they challenged each other everyday, but despite their differences they had one important thing in common, they were crazy about each other” -The Notebook

Everyone loves this quote and I personally cannot stand it. The Notebook is a good movie, but that is what it is- a movie. It is not real and in real life, love is not that complicated and dramatic. Let’s break this down….if you do not agree on anything, if you fight all the time, and challenge each other EVERY DAY…you are not crazy about each other. You are just crazy. Period. Actually it sounds like you do not like each other very much at all and don’t get along. Liking a person and getting along with them are two very important factors of being in love with them. I’ve been in love a few times and I’ve been lucky to have good relationships. Here is something that most girls do not understand….Love is easy. It does not hurt. It feels great. If you are hurting more than you are happy, it is not because love is hard and blah blah blah…it’s because you are in an unhealthy relationship. If you are meant to be with someone, there is not much work that goes into it.

I am with my boyfriend of 3 and a half years because we agree on almost everything. We fight occasionally, but certainly not all the time. We do not challenge each other…we get along with each other. It is comfortable and fun and easy because he is my best friend. THAT is what love is like. Love is not about screaming and fighting then making out. There is not pouring rain and a soundtrack of music in the background when you are kissing. Love is being yourself and having the other person love you for exactly who you are. It is about trust. It’s not crazy jealousy and slamming doors and throwing your phone across the room after a fight with whoever you’re with. Movies give people such a distorted image of what love is supposed to be like and most girls are dumb enough to think that is how it is supposed to be.

“Well Noah and Allie ended up together”…yes they did. Because it is a scripted movie. And when the director yelled cut, Ryan Gosling & Rachel McAdams began dating in real life and guess what…they are no longer together.

The relationship in The Notebook was unhealthy and inaccurate because in reality, being in love (REAL, true love) is the easiest thing in the world.